"Love. Life." ~ Dealing With Cyber Stalkers

Q:

What can you do when someone you have dated won't go away and them and their ex-girlfriend stalk your every move online cutting you down, hating on you and calling your house?

Me~and~Mines

Dear "Me~and~Mines",

I hate it when people get petty and start stalking, taunting and harassing others online. I wish it never happened, but since some people are immature and can't stand to see others living a life they wish they had here's what I suggest you do...

1. MAKE YOUR PAGES PRIVATE (Facebook, Twitter, Myspace, Link'd In etc.) this way no one is allowed to access to your page without your permission.
2. BLOCK BOTH OF THEM from your social networking pages. Ignore any messages you may receive from them - in the eyes of a stalker, any response or reaction from you is an invitation to keep up the drama :-/
3. Tell someone close to you and document any harassing emails, texts, voice messages or letters you may receive. I once received a 17 page (HANDWRITTEN) letter from a psycho chick who was after my boyfriend at the time. I was a bit disturbed that someone would sit down and hand write 17 pages then take the time to Fed Ex the letter to my house...where did this chick get my address anyway!?! Needless to say, I was concerned. I let my mom and sister know about the situation just in case crazy girl decided to show up on my door step one day. Always keep a family member or close friend in the loop if you feel any sense of personal threat.
4. Lastly, go to police and file a report if you feel threatened or that their interference in your life is escalating to a point that doesn't allow you to function freely in your day to day life.

Homeboy and his bug-a-booh chick need to move on, if they're together now that should be enough and they should kindly step out of your way. Always remember, he's your ex for a reason, something told you to let him go so someone new and fabulous can enter your life. Don't count it a loss, be grateful you're not the new chick making a fool of herself over another woman's left overs :-)

You have the right to joy, peace and freedom!

Take 2 Fabs & Call Me In the Morning,

Kelli